Yesterday I wrote about my graduate school intensive retreat week in which I took a Gestalt course
. I’ve written a full paper about what I really learned in the class but I’ve also written this top ten list of things I learned, which I thought I’d share here on the blog today:
- Oh, wow, I live inside a body, not just a head.
- Beware of the word “should”; it signifies an introject that might be worth giving back to its owner.
- If you want to still look youthful after years of being a therapist then you should probably consider being a Gestalt therapist.
- Confluence isn’t always bad. There are orgasms, after all.
- All of those times that I’ve tuned out the world around me in order to rejuvenate were actually excellent self-care practices using the technique of shuttling.
- My ears still glaze over when someone starts talking about their dreams.
- How I eat may reflect the way that I take in information.
- The only dogma of Gestalt is that we work in the here-and-now.
- I am in a constant process of imploding and exploding in order to become self-actualized.
- I am not the same me that I was a moment ago.
It’s been about two weeks since I said that I’d be gone from the blog for a week because I was going on a week-long retreat intensive for school. I should have known it would take time to acclimate again to normal life including blogging and dog walking and seeing friends and basically anything else except napping. School is wonderful and this retreat wasn’t nearly as emotionally tough on me as last year’s retreat but it’s still draining and it seems that when I return I always need to just sleep and sleep and sleep to integrate everything that happened while I was there.
The Annual Retreat
Things I enjoyed imbibing and ingesting recently, at home and in various San Francisco restaurants.
The summer is flying by. It’s just a few weeks until I go to my intensive week-long retreat to kick off my second year of grad school. Hard to believe! We’re taking a Gestalt class first so I’m reading up:
Things I enjoyed ingesting and imbibing in June:
Farmers Market fresh peaches, Snowed Spinach omelette breakfast at Sweet Maple
Japanese grill cooking in Japan Center West Mall, stuffed bell pepper from Mollie Stones, Chipotle chicken bun sandwich at Streatfood, salad from a FiDi pizza place, pork buns and fruit tartlet at California Academy of Sciences Nightlife, steamed broccoli and white wine at home
Sauvignon blanc at Source SF. I also had meatless buffalo chicken, lemon Brussels sprouts and black bean soup but my dinner photos came out blurry, grapefruit mimosa at Sweet Maple.
Five years ago, when this blog was relatively new, I wrote an article titled My Favorite Carbonated Beverages. At the time I was doing a lot of writing on HubPages and had posted an article about the best flavored water.
In that article, I’d named the #1 option to be Clearly Canadian. I wrote:
“I fell in love with this brand of bottled water more than ten years ago, long before the shelves were filled with so many brands of bottled water and long before I’d given up drinking soda. I think that’s why I liked it so much at the time. It’s a carbonated flavored water beverage so it tastes a bit like soda but it’s fruitier and fresher. And I think there’s something to the fact that they’re using pure Canadian water because it really does taste clean. They’ve now launched a non-carbonated version of their water which I haven’t tried yet but am interested in testing out.”
The truth is that I felt really nostalgic about this brand. We used to take these long summer road trips from Arizona to visit our grandmother in Ohio, and there was one summer when I was a teenager when I fell in love with Clearly Canadian and drank it during the whole drive. Additionally, I was involved in pen palling back then and would decorate beautiful pages in friendship books – my early stabs at art … Clearly Canadian and Snapple and other drinks were part of the ephemera I included in those pages. So I just have this fondness for those cold glass bottles and their yummy drinks. I’m sharing this now because I just received a Facebook message letting me know that Clearly Canadian is making a comeback. Note: they aren’t a post sponsor or anything; I just found the message interesting and thought I’d share. Their website says:
“To all of Clearly’s loving, thirsty, demanding fans, this is where you come in to bring Clearly Canadian to life! With your help, work and commitment, Clearly Canadian will be coming to a store near you and into your hot little hands even sooner. Your pre-orders will be literally pushing Clearly Canadian into production. Please order today and please keep campaigning like its 1994!”
They are running a campaign right now to spread the word that they’re back, and they’re offering opportunities to get free cases either by purchasing some to get the free one or by spreading the word to enough people. Looks interesting. Anyone else a fan of this drink?
Some of the things I enjoyed food-wise in May:
Sweet Maple deep fried Dixie bacon
Crepe Florentine with sides of fruit and bacon at Honey in Tendernob
Brie and garlic with apples and baguette at Liverpool Lil’s
Kale salad (above) and pepper/potato flatbread (below) from Fat Angel off of Fillmore
Drinks and Desserts
Amazing ice cream at Pauline’s Pizza in Mission for a friend’s birthday
Chardonnay and Lemon Poppy Scone from Munchery
Wine at Fat Angel
That Bai5 you see in the background is one of my current favorite soda alternatives
White ginger tea at Sweet Maple
I recently shared that I’d done a creativity/spirituality process for a grad school class. I shared my original proposal. Throughout the semester we did forum posts with updates about our process and progress. I thought today I’d share the final post that I did at the end of the course, which I titled Looking Forward.
A lot seems to be happening for me, in me, around me lately … because of the work for this course, because of the work in this school. And while I thought about sharing some of that here, particularly in regards to what I’ve been continuing to do for Applied Spirituality, I’ve decided that what’s more important for me at this stage is to look at what it all might look like moving forward. What did I get out of this? What will I take with me? What will it mean for the people I encounter personally and professionally in the future?
I recently participated in an online Life Perspectives Study run by a graduate student in psychology named Ivan Nasilev.
The Request for Help
Here’s what prompted me to participate:
“Interested in contributing to psychology research and learning more about yourself? This study being conducted by the Institute of Psychology at the University of Heidelberg focuses on how different life perspectives and well-being measures relate to each other. More specifically, it aims at investigating how many empirically distinct kinds of optimism there are, and what positive and negative effects they have on psychological well-being and human health.”
“Even though “optimistic” and “pessimistic” are terms regularly used for the description of people in everyday life, in psychology research there is still no agreement of what “optimism” exactly is. Some research groups see it as a general positive expectancy of the future, others as a specific way people explain the causes of things that happen to them. A third viewpoint focuses more on whether individuals tend to focus on positive or negative aspects of situation when both are given. Finally, another stream of research speaks of “unrealistic optimism” in risk assessment and its possible consequences.
While some of these concepts have been very widely researched, there is still little understanding to what extent they reflect the same underlying processes or how they possibly differ from each other. Answering this question may reveal important insights on which aspects should be trained and how their development can be better approached.”